The obssession with love

Many people have an obsession with love, or what they believe to be love. Some search for the prince charming, some look for a soul mate, some seek someone else who may complete them. But is this entirely possible? And if so, what is the magic answer to finding this so called 'the one'?

Unfortunately, I don't think 'the one' just pops out in front of you, just like that. There is no secret formula for procuring someone who exactly fits your tastes , and hey let's admit it maybe you're not exactly what someone else had in mind anyways (yes, that starcraft addiction, or constant drama watching may not be the most attractive quality)... But luckily, if you are patient, you may possibly find someone that will like you.

After that, life is easy! Cruising through, dating, no hassle... Right?

Wrong!

Even when you've got lucky, found yourself a nice boy/girl who has an interest in you, you are now faced with maintaining a level of interest in each other that might possibly land you in a relationship. On this path of true love, nothing can stop you from wanting this person, thinking about them, being a helpless romantic and acting like a fool... All because you're in loooooveee! Yes!! Finally!

So, here goes the big moment.

"So uh.. do you wanna be my girlfriend?" you ask. She blushes slightly, looking away shyly at first .. But then smilingly, she nods her head. "Yes", she whispers.

YESSSS screams your head. You are delirious, you've found her, caught her, hook, line and sinker! Only awesomeness from now, yes?

No.

You, my keen player, in this game of love, is only cruising through 'free parking' in Monopoly. Nothing could be better! You guys are going out holding hands, maybe even a little smoochy smoochy.

Nothing ever goes wrong in this period, until the 'Go directly to jail, do not pass GO' card smacks you in the face. Fast forward 6 months, 1 year. 2 years if you're lucky when the original sparks have died down, and you guys are used to each other.

She no longer makes you excited. That starcraft addiction never really died, and you wouldn't mind playing it instead of going on a date. Everything seems only ordinary, and disagreements are no longer an "occassional" thing.

You are stuck in the abyss of normality that you cannot escape from. You don't feel a particular tendency to want to change it either.

This my friend, is the time you should reflect back on your original intentions, aspirations, hope... Or possibly even love.

Ask yourself. Do you really love her?

1. Do you honestly care for her?
2. Does your heart ache when you hear shes sad?
3. Do you stil feell warm or happy when she smiles at you?
4. Do you still feel the enthusiasm you did for her at the start?
5. Do you think about whats good for her, and not you?
6. Would you give up doing the things, or talking to the people that she doesn't want you to, just to make her happy.
7. Was she worth your last (however long you've been dating) days?
8. Do you ever regret getting together with her?
9. Do you even need to ponder on these questions
10. Can you live without her?

If you're hesitating, maybe your should reconsider whether you really love this girl despite all the time you've spent with her.

Because to me, a love that is selfless, unbreakable and yielding despite the hardest times is one that is worthy of my time and dedication. I say, if you cannot dedicate yourself to me, I cannot do the same to you.

Love is pure, but when muddied by intentions that darken the waters... Such as selfishness, greedyness, jealously, lust for lust's sake... The love is tainted and no longer pure.

Love for the sake of loving. Hurt may be inevitable, maybe it'll take a few times to find your one.

But when you do, I hope you can hold on and be brave, and not give up at slight hiccups along the way. Only when you have faith may you begin to truely love and appreciate someone.

PS. Sorry the end got corny. Clearly I got into a pondering rather than trying to entertain.